I Think Prince Got It Right

 

After Prince died I became fascinated by all the things I didn’t know about Prince. People started coming out the woodwork to tell the world how authentic, principled, and generous he was.

I’ve reflected on this a lot, and I think Prince got it right. He lived his truth. He paved his own path. He stood up for what he believed. He passionately pursued his art. He befriend, mentored, and supported the underdog. He quietly, yet powerfully contributed to causes large and small. He invested in his fans and his community. He honored his faith. 

All of this can be summarized in a short, worthy philosophy that I hope to embody in my own life. Maybe you do, too.

Make YOUR music. Do good. Love people.

 

It might sound simple, but when we get to the end of our days, these are the things that will have mattered.

 

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My Top 10 Favorite Quotes From Wellth by Jason Wachob

My Top 10 Favorite Quotes From Wellth by Jason Wachob

About every 6 weeks I post a book review.  Not your traditional 500 word, hope-I-get-an-A book review we all did in junior high, but MY kind of book review — the top 10 quotes I lit up with my super florescent yellow highlighter.

This time I’m featuring Wellth by Jason Wachob, founder of the wildly popular health & wellness website,  MindBodyGreen.com

 

To be truly wellthy is to find your personal prescription — to discover what works for you, what feels good, what you love. That process of discovery never ends. There are certain diets and types of exercise that are right for you in certain periods of your life but not others. Not only do we have to find the approach that works for us; we need to learn how to adapt that approach, or change it entirely, throughout our lives.

 

I realized that when you force things — a career, a relationship — life will be forceful back. If you want your life to be easy, you need to practice easy.

 

JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE WORKING SIXTEEN hours a day doesn’t mean you’re being efficient with your time.

 

When I’m focusing on things that I’m good at, I tend to produce good work, and I do so very quickly. When I work on things that I’m not good at, I tend to work much slower and produce results that are just okay. At times you have to focus on stuff that doesn’t play to your strengths, but whenever possible, try to delegate that type of assignment to someone else on your team who is better suited for it.

 

Getting healthy requires us to actually see our selves as healthy (or fit or slimmer or sleeping better, or fill-in-the-blank) before we even get there.

 

You know the sensation when you walk into a spa or resort and immediately you feel relaxed or Zen-like? That is no accident; in fact, that impression was created intentionally. I’m a huge believer in making your space work for you. Whether it’s your home or office, you need the optimal setup for work, play, or relaxation.

 

When you hang around people who think big, follow their passion, and are doing amazing things, it can’t help but rub off.

 

You can try to ignore you instincts, but you won’t have much success. the wave or gut reaction is part of something much bigger than you are, and in the end, it will always win. If you try to go up against your intuition, you’ll likely end up getting hurt.

 

Gratitude is the only thing that will ever make you happy.

 

“If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you’re the asshole.” – Raylan Givens

 

Click here to check out WELLTH on Amazon

 

BONUS QUOTES

(They didn’t make my top 10, but they’re still worth reading):

In reality, what is good for me may be awful for you.

Sometimes we all need a doughnut. It’s probably not a great idea to eat one every day, but the occasional treat isn’t going to kill you. Life should be fun. Being obsessive about diet can be stressful and can bring on orthorexia — an unhealthy obsession with healthy eating. So aim to be balanced in your eating, as well as in your life.

“Stick to things that God made and not that man made.” — Dr. Mark Hyman

One size doesn’t fit all, when it comes to diet. each person is an individual with different nutritional needs. What works as an eating plan for your best friend may not work for you.

Be mindful of every bite you put into your mouth. Eat slowly and enjoy the flavor of your foods. The more slowly you eat, the more full you feel, and the more you’ll enjoy your food.

Don’t beat yourself up when you slip and eat something that isn’t very healthy. Enjoy it, and then remember that your total lifestyle is what counts.

When in doubt, eat vegetables!

“Success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure.” — Tony Robbins

Every person who is succeeding by means of brute force and speed isn’t doing it correctly. Sure, we can get things done this way, but we’re making life a lot more difficult than it needs to be.

“Turning work into play and essentially serving others, while reducing suffering (for others), is the highest compensation one can seek.” — Scott Macinlay Hahn

When awful things occur, there are no answers to be found. Looking for the silver lining, looking to connect the dots, just leads to more pain. The only way to get out of the downward spiral is to let go of the search for answers.

Becoming healthy requires that we believe in ourselves, and create new thought patterns that lead to sustainable practices.

As long as you can breathe, you can meditate. That’s it. And it’s that simple.

The Centre for Aging Studies and Flinders University in Australia found that people with a large network of friends outlived those with the least number of friends by an average of 22 percent. A study cited in Lancet showed that women who had breast cancer and were in a support group lived twice as long as those who weren’t in a group. Many other studies have revealed the importance of friendships not only to mental health but to physical health.

In my experience, being responsible for your own happiness is the essential building block of any relationship. But to be truly happy, you need to be your true self, as does your partner. You must love and support them in their journey, and they must do the same for you.

“No matter what happens around you, don’t take it personally…Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves.” — Don Miguel Ruiz

You must love someone for who they are, not for who you want them to be. True love is altruistic: it means putting another person’s needs before your own. It means you will stick with that person even if they become ill or depressed or their appearance changes. It means that as you age, you will grow together and not resist or resent the other person’s growth. And together you bring out the best in each other.

Often underneath the discussion of problematic issues, someone is asking for more emotional connection.

A great doctor knows that those words, “You’re going to be okay,” go a long way toward making someone feel much better.

A number of doctors…now practice this blend of “functional medicine.” If you step into their offices, they’ll treat you — and not your symptoms. They’ll actually listen to you as you describe your symptoms, your diet, your stress levels, and so on.

Even though many doctors are smart, well-intentioned, and caring, many are not trained to optimize health, which is a completely different skill than performing life-saving surgery or individualizing chemotherapy.

Doctors can be wrong. Trust your gut, and go after the right answers for you.

There’s no playbook for grieving, and their’s certainly no right or wrong way to do it. I’ve learned to let myself grieve fully, no matter how much I’d rather move on or how surprising or offputting I find my reactions at first. It may sound like a cliche’ but grieving is a way of honoring ourselves and the deceased, no matter what that grief looks like. There’s no way around grieving — you can only go through it.

Think You Can't Say No?

Think You Can’t Say No? Yes, Yes You Can.

You’d think such a short word would be easy to say, but saying no is hard! If you can’t say no, or if you’re not very good at saying it, or you can say it but you absolutely HATE it, you need to read this short post all the way to the end.

I like being the guy who says, “Sure, I’ll help!” I love providing great service to people, and I really don’t like to let people down. So I used to say yes…a lot. Every open moment on my calendar basically became first come/first served. Wanna grab coffee? SURE! Need a volunteer at Church? I’m your guy! A coach for soccer? I don’t know the first thing about soccer, but why not!

And, oh yeah, I also had a business and a family that both wanted my attention, too.

Along the way I discovered something about myself: I need a lot of down/free time in order to maintain high levels of creativity, energy, and focus. I was not born with an unlimited supply of these items and when my calendar is packed full, they get (and stay) depleted quickly.

I suspect you were not born with unlimited amounts of creativity, energy, and focus either.

You Must Learn How To Say No

You don’t just have to learn how to say no, you have to learn how to say no with confidence. It’s the #1 way to control the flow of your life. It’s like having a magic doorway that YOU control, and it only grants entry to the people, tasks, events, and opportunities that are truly the best use of your time.

Last week I shared how to double your free time to do more of the things you really want to do. I also promised I’d share my thoughts this week on how to say no. So here you go:

 

1. Block your calendar.
Look at your upcoming week or month and block every spare minute on your calendar. This is counter-intuitive because you’re thinking, “That time is really open.” But it’s not. Until someone takes it, ALL of it belongs to you.

If you do this — and you believe that you OWN all of your open time — when someone asks for some of it, you’ll think more carefully about it. Now you’ll be giving up YOUR time instead of just booking time on an empty calendar.

You can plan specific things to work on during your time or you can just block it with no label whatsoever. Entirely up to you and how you work best.

 

2. Consult your calendar first, every time.

If you have blocked your time effectively, your calendar becomes your protector. When your time is already spoken for, you can honestly and confidently say “I don’t have time right now”. You might also find yourself taking on less — which is NOT a bad thing — because you’ll start to realize how little time you really have to be amazing at what you do. And you’ll start getting better and better at protecting your time from things that distract you from that.

 

3. Know what your Kind, Confident No sounds like.

The only way to know what your Kind, Confident No sounds like is to a) craft it and, b) practice it.

If you’re always prepared, you won’t default to saying yes when someone requests your time. You also won’t say “maybe”, which is really just a delayed no 99% of the time.

Time is the only excuse you need. Don’t waste time creating any other story. “I’m sorry, I don’t have the time to do that right now” works in every situation. If you feel like that’s too cold, you can throw in “But have a great time” or “I wish you the best” or “I’ll do the next one” (but only if you mean it).

Many requests you can turn down via email, but you will also have to say no face-to-face sometimes, which is way harder. It is extremely helpful if you’ve heard yourself say it out loud several times. Practice speaking your no until you can say it with confidence and kindness. I find the car is a great place to practice saying things out loud. It’s also a great place to sing Zach Brown Band songs at the top of your lungs.

 

 

By the way, the ONLY thing people ever request of you is your time. It doesn’t matter if they’re asking for a report, a product, a meeting, a quick phone call, a volunteer, a service, etc. You may be delivering these “things” to them, but what they’ve taken from you is your time. Every time. And you don’t get it back.

I hope these last two posts help you gain back some your precious time (and creativity and energy and focus). Let me know if they’ve helped, ok?

And if you’ve got a solid way of saying no with confidence, drop it into the comments below. We can all use more examples and inspiration.

 

How To Double Your Free Time

How To Double Your Free Time

Does it seem completely impossible to double your free time? I promise you, it’s not.

Your life — if it’s anything at all like mine used to be — is crazy busy.

Between work obligations, family schedules, volunteering for school, community, and Church events, and everything else you’ve overcommitted yourself to — you no longer have any free time, except maybe one or two weeks of vacation (and even that you have to work your buns off to get ready for).

Life zooms by even when you’re NOT crazy busy. It definitely speeds up up even more when your calendar is completely packed. As the wise man, Ferris Bueller, once said, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around for a while, you could miss it.”

I’ve been in your shoes. Not literally, that would be weird and creepy. I mean I know what it’s like to have a crazy busy life. I’ve got a wife, two kids, two parents, two dogs, a house, a yard, a business, friends, and a community that all want my attention. And that’s when there’s NOT an emergency or crisis to deal with.

There have been many points in my life when I didn’t feel like I had a minute of free time. Here’s what all those points have in common: they sucked. They drained my energy. They were no fun. So a few years ago I decided to create more free time in my life to do the things that I want to do, the things that energize me, the things that help me clear my head so I can bring my best self to everything I am committed to.

And it wasn’t nearly as hard as I thought.

How To Double Your Free Time

Doubling your free time is completely doable especially when you don’t have much to begin with. If you only have 30 minutes of free time (or Me-Time as I like to call it) each week, gaining another 30 minutes doesn’t seem out of the question, does it?

What if you could gain an hour, or two, or TEN? Before you shrug it off as impossible, I want you to finish this article and use the tool I’m going to give you.

The two main things that helped me create more Me-Time were:

  1. Identifying what I could change or let go of.
  2. Learning how to say no with confidence.

Next week I’ll share with you the recipe for saying no with confidence. This week I have a very simple, yet incredibly powerful tool to share that will help you learn how to identify the areas of your life where you might be able to double your free time — sooner than later — to do the things you really want to do.

Sound good? (I know it does. I just asked to get you to say “Heck yeah!” in your head).

The Me-Time Multiplier™

I recently created a tool to help identify the major time-takers in your life. It also helps you decide which ones you can change, let go of, or rearrange to create more free time every week, or even every day. I tested it out on my team (they’re always my guinea pigs) and they said hands-down this is the most helpful tool I’ve ever created.

It’s called The Me-Time Multiplier and you can download it for free below.

It takes as little as 10 minutes to work through it. Even if you’re time-starved right now — maybe ESPECIALLY if you’re time-starved right now — it is SO worth taking the time and you’ll start to see results almost immediately.

Here’s what it covers:

  • Clarifying your Me-Time.
  • Your Top 5 Time Takers
  • Your Top 5 Interruptors
  • Your Top 5 Time Wasters
  • Your Top 5 Repetitive Tasks
  • Your top 5 Most Dreaded Activities

Download the Me-Time Multiplier For Free

 

I hope the Me-Time Multiplier helps you, liberates you, and allows you double your free time (or more) so you can keep yourself inspired and energized. If you use it, I’d love to hear about your experience, so drop me a note, ok?

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