It's Time To Be The Boldest Person In The Room

It’s Time To Be The Boldest Person In The Room

There is a reason why you’re not getting where you want to go.

There is a cause for not getting what you want.

There is a correlation between how you’re acting and what you’re trying to achieve.

Here it is:

You’re not being bold enough.

No one has ever made a difference by sitting around and waiting for something to happen.

No one has ever accomplished anything even remotely interesting watching from the sidelines.

No one has ever won a fight by being timid.

There is a time for waiting. But it’s not now.

There is a time for going with the flow. But it’s not now.

There is a time for letting someone else take the lead. But it’s not now.

Right now, it’s time for you to be the boldest person in the room.

Deep breath. Ready…set…go.

Proof That Nice Guys (And Gals) CAN Finish First

Have you won a gold medal in the Olympics?

Have you won 70 different titles in your field?

Have you overcome cancer, not once, but twice?

Have you started your career over multiple times?

Have you used your passion, your life story, and your gifts to make a difference in the lives of countless others?

Have you remained a humble, generous, genuinely nice person through all of it?

Scott Hamilton has.

This weekend I listed to an interview with Scott on Donald Miller’s Building A Storybrand podcast. It was one of those “just what I needed to hear right now” kind of interviews. Scott talks about keeping your fire alive, overcoming adversity, and most importantly, how to win in life.

It’s so refreshing to hear a story about someone who disproves the idea that “nice guys finish last.”

I thought you might like to hear it, too, so here’s a link to the episode:

Listen on the Building A Storybrand website

Listen on iTunes

(The interview starts at 10:25 if you want to skip right to it)

 

Have a great week!

 

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Better Than Expected

Has Anything Ever Ended Up Better Than You Expected?

Have you ever ended up someplace you didn’t expect?

Maybe you’ve ended up on the side of the road with a flat tire. Or you’ve ended up in the emergency room. Or sitting across from someone who is telling your your services are no longer needed.

I know, nice start to a post, right? We usually associate unexpected endings with something worse than we were shooting for.

But have you ever ended up in a place that was BETTER than you expected?

I have, and recently, too. A week ago I hosted my first Superpower Summit. 24 people from multiple states came to sparkspace to discover, enhance, activate, and multiply their Ordinary Superpowers — the unique abilities, talents, and skills that help them contribute at their highest levels and help the most people.

I thought/hoped participants would show up, participate in the retreat, and have an AHA (or several) about their Ordinary Superpowers. Truthfully, I would have been pretty happy with that outcome.

But here’s the thing — even though I had a hope for the way things would go, I had also decided to approach this retreat differently than any other retreat I’ve hosted.

Typically, I tightly control the content and the experience. There’s an outcome I want people to achieve, information I want them to learn, or a plan I want them to create. This time, I let go of MY expectation and allowed participants to pull from the experience whatever they felt was most important to them. Sure, I shared some of my thoughts, but I intentionally designed the framework of the event to include a ton of time for self reflection and participant discussion.

I gotta tell ya, I was nervous. I had no idea how this would turn out. I was confident in the concept of the retreat and I put a boatload of thought and work into the framework. I was more prepared than I’ve ever been. But I had never put the outcome so fully into the hands of the participants — or the Universe — before.

If I was expecting anything, I was expecting to end up with a flat tire, a trip to the emergency room, or a pink slip, metaphorically speaking. But that didn’t happen.

Instead, I saw more light bulb moments than ever. I witnessed people see their authentic self more clearly (maybe even for the first time in some cases). I heard stories of transformation.

One email I received afterward actually described the event as life-changing. THAT, I did NOT expect. But, of course, I’m super happy that it did.

And it never would have happened if I had tried to control the outcome like I normally do.

By not piling my expectations on the participants, they were free to come up with even better outcomes…and so was I. I may have had an even bigger, life-changing AHA than some of them. My AHA is quickly evolving into a life philosophy:

Know where you want to go, prepare like crazy, pull the trigger, and then let go of the outcome. 

You can still have hopes, expectations, and goals. But realize all you can do is set something up for success. You really can’t control the outcome.

I know this may not resonate with everyone and some people may even completely disagree with me. However, if you’re often frustrated or disappointed by outcomes or results (especially ones you try so hard to control), this philosophy might be worth trying on for size.

Will it always lead to a better place than you expected? No. You’ll miss the mark sometimes, but you do now anyway, right?

Will it sometimes lead to a different and better place than you expected? More often than you think.

Full disclosure: Did everyone love the Superpower Summit and think it was the best thing since Al Gore invented the Internet? Nope. I mean, everybody liked it, but certainly not everyone had a life-changing experience. Sometimes people aren’t ready to do the work, or they were expecting a different kind of experience, or they don’t appreciate my corny jokes.

The added bonus of letting go of the outcome is that for the first time ever, I’m actually ok with all of that, too.

P.S. If the Superpower Summit sounds like something that you would like to experience, I just scheduled the next one for Friday, July 22nd.

I’m kicking off registration today with early bird pricing AND a special code for the readers of my blog.

Use the code: SUPERFRIEND and get an extra $50 off the early bird pricing (for $100 total discount).

Seats are extremely limited and I’ve already pre-sold several tickets!

CLICK HERE for full details and registration information