I’ll admit, I have a lone-wolf personality.
I like being by myself. I like tackling problems or building things on my own. I’m sure that’s why I like writing so much. While there is (hopefully) an audience, the act of writing is truly a lone wolf endeavor.
But someone with a lone-wolf personality can accomplish only so much on his own. Not to mention, a lone wolf can easily become a lonely wolf.
I’m emerging from an extended lone wolf period in my life. Aside from my wife and my team at sparkspace, I haven’t connected or collaborated with many people. That’s not necessarily a bad thing; after all, it did afford me the time and space to write a book. However, I know that if I seclude myself for too long I end up feeling stale, isolated, and, definitely lonely.
The point here is that even a lone wolf needs a pack sometimes.
So, lately I’ve been spending a fair amount of time and energy doing three things:
- I’ve been reconnecting with members of my pack. These are the people who stay in my pack, even when my lone-wolf personality is in full swing. But, as I’m deciding who to reach back out to, I sometimes realize that someone doesn’t belong in my pack — or I don’t belong in theirs — anymore. We’re all still good people, just not as good of a fit as we once were. So my pack evolves over time.
- I’ve been selectively adding new people to my pack. When I run into someone I seem to resonate with, I explore that resonance. If it seems real and genuine, then I add that person to my pack and spend time and energy investing in that relationship.
- I’ve joined and created some new packs. I joined the Small Giants Community, a network of business owners who hold many of the same values that I do. I also started a mastermind group with four of my Superpower Summit alumni. That is off to such a great start that I am considering starting a new group after each of my quarterly summits.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being a lone wolf. Like I said, I actually enjoy it and it often enables me to do some pretty solid work. I know many other lone wolfs who feel the same way.
I also know it’s not good for me to stay isolated for too long. Re-igniting relationships and building new connections almost always complement and strengthen my Ordinary Superpowers, enable me to embark on bigger missions, and overcome obstacles that I can’t conquer on my own. Plus, they add interest, energy, and fun to my life that I could never generate all by myself.
Anyone else with a lone-wolf personality out there? Do you ever stay outside the pack a little too long? Is it time to reconnect to your pack or maybe even form a new one? Would love to hear your thoughts!