Last week a friend of mine posted a story on her Facebook feed about a man who had made a condescending, sexist, ridiculous remark to her and her business partner. This was an attorney they were considering hiring.
They didn’t hire him.
She debated whether to say anything to the man about why they weren’t going to use his services.
Needless to say, some of the comments from her friends and followers were things like, “He’s a pig,” “He’s probably always been that way,” and “He’ll never change, so what’s the point?”
Maybe they’re right. But maybe if one person would share — with kindness instead of hostility — how insensitive and inaccurate his thinking is, he might step back, take a little inventory of his mind and behavior, and make a change.
I know I’ve said some stupid stuff in my life, and I’m grateful for the people who have called me out on it. I’m even more grateful for the ones who have done it with compassion.
If you think people can’t change, I invite you to listen to Jonathan Fields’ interview with Scott Harrison, the founder of Charity: Water. I listened to it this morning and it blew me away. It’s the story of a man who lived 100% for himself, who made his living on hedonism and debauchery, and then completely rewrote the script of his life and founded one of the most impactful charity organizations in human history.
If you think people can’t change. Think again.
And, if you think YOU can’t change and have a more positive impact on the world, well, that’s the biggest myth of all.