About every 6 weeks I post a book review. Not your traditional 500 word, hope-I-get-an-A book review we all did in junior high, but MY kind of book review — the top 10 quotes I lit up with my super florescent yellow highlighter.
To be truly wellthy is to find your personal prescription — to discover what works for you, what feels good, what you love. That process of discovery never ends. There are certain diets and types of exercise that are right for you in certain periods of your life but not others. Not only do we have to find the approach that works for us; we need to learn how to adapt that approach, or change it entirely, throughout our lives.
I realized that when you force things — a career, a relationship — life will be forceful back. If you want your life to be easy, you need to practice easy.
JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE WORKING SIXTEEN hours a day doesn’t mean you’re being efficient with your time.
When I’m focusing on things that I’m good at, I tend to produce good work, and I do so very quickly. When I work on things that I’m not good at, I tend to work much slower and produce results that are just okay. At times you have to focus on stuff that doesn’t play to your strengths, but whenever possible, try to delegate that type of assignment to someone else on your team who is better suited for it.
Getting healthy requires us to actually see our selves as healthy (or fit or slimmer or sleeping better, or fill-in-the-blank) before we even get there.
You know the sensation when you walk into a spa or resort and immediately you feel relaxed or Zen-like? That is no accident; in fact, that impression was created intentionally. I’m a huge believer in making your space work for you. Whether it’s your home or office, you need the optimal setup for work, play, or relaxation.
When you hang around people who think big, follow their passion, and are doing amazing things, it can’t help but rub off.
You can try to ignore you instincts, but you won’t have much success. the wave or gut reaction is part of something much bigger than you are, and in the end, it will always win. If you try to go up against your intuition, you’ll likely end up getting hurt.
Gratitude is the only thing that will ever make you happy.
“If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you’re the asshole.” – Raylan Givens
(They didn’t make my top 10, but they’re still worth reading):
In reality, what is good for me may be awful for you.
Sometimes we all need a doughnut. It’s probably not a great idea to eat one every day, but the occasional treat isn’t going to kill you. Life should be fun. Being obsessive about diet can be stressful and can bring on orthorexia — an unhealthy obsession with healthy eating. So aim to be balanced in your eating, as well as in your life.
“Stick to things that God made and not that man made.” — Dr. Mark Hyman
One size doesn’t fit all, when it comes to diet. each person is an individual with different nutritional needs. What works as an eating plan for your best friend may not work for you.
Be mindful of every bite you put into your mouth. Eat slowly and enjoy the flavor of your foods. The more slowly you eat, the more full you feel, and the more you’ll enjoy your food.
Don’t beat yourself up when you slip and eat something that isn’t very healthy. Enjoy it, and then remember that your total lifestyle is what counts.
When in doubt, eat vegetables!
“Success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure.” — Tony Robbins
Every person who is succeeding by means of brute force and speed isn’t doing it correctly. Sure, we can get things done this way, but we’re making life a lot more difficult than it needs to be.
“Turning work into play and essentially serving others, while reducing suffering (for others), is the highest compensation one can seek.” — Scott Macinlay Hahn
When awful things occur, there are no answers to be found. Looking for the silver lining, looking to connect the dots, just leads to more pain. The only way to get out of the downward spiral is to let go of the search for answers.
Becoming healthy requires that we believe in ourselves, and create new thought patterns that lead to sustainable practices.
As long as you can breathe, you can meditate. That’s it. And it’s that simple.
The Centre for Aging Studies and Flinders University in Australia found that people with a large network of friends outlived those with the least number of friends by an average of 22 percent. A study cited in Lancet showed that women who had breast cancer and were in a support group lived twice as long as those who weren’t in a group. Many other studies have revealed the importance of friendships not only to mental health but to physical health.
In my experience, being responsible for your own happiness is the essential building block of any relationship. But to be truly happy, you need to be your true self, as does your partner. You must love and support them in their journey, and they must do the same for you.
“No matter what happens around you, don’t take it personally…Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves.” — Don Miguel Ruiz
You must love someone for who they are, not for who you want them to be. True love is altruistic: it means putting another person’s needs before your own. It means you will stick with that person even if they become ill or depressed or their appearance changes. It means that as you age, you will grow together and not resist or resent the other person’s growth. And together you bring out the best in each other.
Often underneath the discussion of problematic issues, someone is asking for more emotional connection.
A great doctor knows that those words, “You’re going to be okay,” go a long way toward making someone feel much better.
A number of doctors…now practice this blend of “functional medicine.” If you step into their offices, they’ll treat you — and not your symptoms. They’ll actually listen to you as you describe your symptoms, your diet, your stress levels, and so on.
Even though many doctors are smart, well-intentioned, and caring, many are not trained to optimize health, which is a completely different skill than performing life-saving surgery or individualizing chemotherapy.
Doctors can be wrong. Trust your gut, and go after the right answers for you.
There’s no playbook for grieving, and their’s certainly no right or wrong way to do it. I’ve learned to let myself grieve fully, no matter how much I’d rather move on or how surprising or offputting I find my reactions at first. It may sound like a cliche’ but grieving is a way of honoring ourselves and the deceased, no matter what that grief looks like. There’s no way around grieving — you can only go through it.